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Why do I Find it Hard to Seek Help for my Goals?

A young adult asked this question, so I thought I would write my thoughts in case other young adults had this same question. The student asked "Why do I find it hard to seek help for my goals?" The first thing i expressed was that the student might not yet see the value in their self or their goals if they are not seeking help. You see, when you truly know your strengths, believe in yourself and are adamant about your goals, you'll want to use all resources available to you to reach those goals. In other words, the most critical issue might be seeing your value. If you don't first see the value in yourself, you cannot convince others to see your value either. So first assess how well you value yourself and your ability to reach your goals.

If you feel like you see your value and are passionate about your goals, but still find it hard to seeks assistance, review the three reasons below as one of them might be the reason you are not seeking help for your goals:

  1. You are afraid or embarrassed. You might be too afraid embarrassed to tell anyone about your goals because they seem too big or you feel that you might not reach them. If this is the case for you, find someone you trust to share your goals. If you feel like you do not have anyone in your inner circle, the first thing I want you to do is FIND A NEW INNER CIRCLE. beyond that you can look to online social groups that are used to being people together based on similar interests. If you are a part of such groups, this is a great platform for you to ask questions and get feedback on moving forward with your goals. You could also reach out to someone who has reached the goal that you seek to reach. This way, you know that the person will likely understand where you are coming from because they've been on that path before.

  2. You don’t know what you need. If you don’t know what you need, how can you ask for help. If this is you, what you really need is to sit down, write out your goals, and take note of the resources needed to reach those goals. For example, if you want to start a project to help homeless students, some resources you would need might be money, list of homeless shelters, donations of supplies. Now, you will need to ask yourself how you will get those resources. Will you ask friends and family to assist, will you do an online donation campaign, will you volunteer at a homeless shelter? If you feel stuck when thinking of resources, simply ask yourself, what would make this project successful? Once you reflect on your goals, resources, and what will make the project successful, you will have a better idea of where to go for assistance. Now, you can start asking others for assistance.

  3. You think you can do it alone. The last reason you might find it hard to ask for help on your goals is that you are adamant about doing it alone. Yes, you can try to accomplish your goals on your own, but there are so many resources that are out there to make your journey smoother than those who came before you. So while you can try to go it alone, I recommend seeking resources. When you use resources that are already out there for you, you can complete your goals in a more effective and efficient manner. It will also be a huge help for your physical, mental, and spiritual health.

So now, what is holding you back from asking for assistance? If you want help talking through your goals, determining resources, or figuring out where to start with your goals, book a FREE 1-on-1 session with us at

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